About a month and a half ago, I was told that after my gallbladder surgery, that I could return to a sedentary job in a week. I was elated by this news and took the first two days off of work completely and arranged to work from home until the seven day mark had been reached.
Come day seven after surgery, I was still in quite a bit of pain and was bone tired all of the time. I had trouble driving because you actually use your core a lot more to work the gas and brake than you might think. I was devastated and essentially trapped at home for the better part of two weeks, only able to drive across the street to get groceries, but then return home too tired to cook them.
When I saw my surgeon for a follow up two weeks after my surgery date, I relayed my concerns about how slow my recovery was going. He laughed and said that the one week thing was really the best case scenario and that most people take a bit longer to recover from abdominal surgery. When he’d first told me “one week,” he hadn’t explained that this was what would happen in a perfect world.
Well, we do not live in a perfect world and I am not (and never have been) a best case scenario. Nor have I done more than dabble in being a worst case scenario. Like most people, I reside in between these two polar opposites.
I am happy, but not too happy. I am healthy enough, but not very healthy. I have money, but I do not have enough to spend it frivolously. I am pretty, but not too pretty. I have a good relationship with my father, but it is not perfect. I have engaging hobbies, but I have too many, so they sometimes cause me stress.
Life so rarely exists in a state of best case or worst case scenario, and when it does, it is generally not for very long. So we must look to find joy and value not in the very best of things, but in the pragmatic, everyday good things that we experience. It is more than a little humbling to be good at many things, but never excellent at any of them – but that is the reality of life. Don’t be afraid of this middle ground, for it is a good place to put down roots and learn to thrive.