“If it doesn’t turn out perfect the first time, I might as well just not even try.”
Oof. Does this sound familiar to you? It’s been my mantra sometimes when it comes to writing. Or drawing. or cooking. Or sewing. Or… you get the idea.
This concept is rampant in the creative industry. As consumers of art, we tend to only ever see the finished product. We’re not witness to the crumpled up sketches in the trash, the seven drafts before the novel got published, the hours of footage on the cutting room floor, the lyrics that didn’t make the cut.
We don’t see the process. We see the polished, completed piece of art and go, “Why isn’t my work like that?”
I’m not sure where I first heard the phrase “toxic perfectionism,” but boy howdy did it ever hit home for me. There’s perfectionism (often based in anxiety; that’s another chat for another day), which can be troublesome, and then there’s toxic perfectionism which, true to its name, can poison you and your work.
Do you ever stare at a blank screen, waiting for the words to come, and just feel paralyzed by your own inadequacy? I’m going to be honest here: I haven’t written any fiction in a week. And it’s been painful, but something about this time of year stresses me the hell out and I can’t seem to make myself sit down and write. I keep escaping into video games in my free evenings, which – don’t get me wrong – is fun. And it can be healthy to just fuck off for a few hours and not be productive (a lesson I am constantly learning), but what happens to that floundering draft of a story or novel while we do this?
It lies fallow. And, for me, insecurities run rampant in that space that isn’t being filled by creative outlets. Blogging feels the same way; I haven’t been doing it daily lately because of some difficulties at work are leaving me drained, and now that I’m trying to get back into writing most weekdays, I’m feeling so worried that I’m not going to produce anything remotely worthwhile.
Medium/blogging is a kind of Publish or Perish environment and the pressure can be astounding. How do we get past it? How do we push through? How do we silence those doubtful voices in our heads?
Here’s my advice: Make it good, but more importantly, get it done. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to happen.
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Deidre Delpino Dykes, an author of speculative fiction, may actually be three birds in a trench coat. She is the co-organizer of the Columbia Writers critique group in Maryland and a passionate player and GM of tabletop role playing games. She is working on a novel-length manuscript and enjoys writing short and flash fiction, some of which has appeared in Wizards in Space vol. 1, Ghosts on Drugs, and Flash Fiction Magazine. Deidre tweets as @DeidreDykes and previously worked as a slush reader for Clarkesworld Magazine.